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Book Review | Two Kisses for Maddy by Matthew Logelin

“Two Kisses for Maddy” Book Review

If you’re looking for a tear jerker, Two Kisses for Maddy is the right book for you.  It’s a memoir of a single dad trying to cope with the loss of his wife, while raising a newborn.  Matthew Logelin writes about his wife and how they came to meet, fall in love, and what their marriage was like.  It was clear that they really loved each other and that he adores her.

The sad truth is that bad things happen to good people and his wife died giving birth to their baby girl Madeline.  Liz never got to hold her.  The book then became about  Logelin trying to survive and adapt to a world without his wife and to raising a baby.

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I found this book when I was at Target looking for another good memoir to read.  I’m no stranger to the book isles there and I’m sure the employees consider me a regular.  If my fiance wasn’t with me I’m sure I would have stayed for hours just looking through the books and reading the back covers.  I won’t even mention how long I end up staying in a Barnes & Noble store.

Now back to the book…

I think this book is better suited for those who can relate to it.  I know that I related to it.  Not that I’m a single father, but my youngest sister didn’t get to know our mother like I knew her.  Our mother died when I was nineteen and my sister was four.  I don’t think she will really remember her mother except by what I tell her.  That’s the reason I connected to this book so much.  While it tells the story of how a father is working through being a single dad and a widow, I have a feeling he will have to answer the same questions I did with my sister.

Where did mommy go?  Why isn’t mommy here? What happened to mommy?  These are a few of the questions my sister has asked when my mom first passed.

It also shows what having a great support system will do.  Logelin had many friends and family members that helped him work through his loss and adjust to being a father.  When my mom died, having my friends and family around kept my mind off of it and I was able to move forward.  It still hurts when I think about her and I suspect it is for Logelin too, but each passing year gets easier.

This book is also a great example of how blogs can change someone’s life.  Logelin started a blog meant for photos of his travels and a way to keep his family updated.  After his wife died it became a way for him to deal with his loss.  According to Logelin it was also becoming Madeline’s baby book.

You can visit his blog where his gives updates on what he and his daughter are up to (Matt, Liz and Madeline).

The only thing I would warn readers is that there’s a lot of foul language in it.  I personally didn’t mind that it was there.  I think it really added to the story and I could feel the emotions more, but if you get offended by that stuff you probably shouldn’t read it.

Favorite Quotes

“Yes, Maddy and I had made it through a year without Liz.  But really, a year is nothing.  It felt like such an arbitrary measure, especially when it was used to quantify the time since sadness had entered my life.  Of course, it had also been a year since Madeline – and the happiness that only she could bring – had entered my life.”

“I quietly opened her door, and just like I’d done every night since the day she was born, I kissed the tips of my fingers twice and touched her forehead.  One kiss from me, and one from your mother.  One for what could have been, and one for what will be.”

Overall Rating

5-gold-star-rating

Let me know your thoughts by leaving a comment.  If you’ve read the book already I would love to hear your opinions on it.  Did you relate to it like I did?

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Life Can Be Unfair

A lot of things in life are unfair.  At seven, its unfair when your sister doesn’t have to help clean the bedroom.  At thirteen, its unfair that you can’t go to a birthday party when all the other kids are.  At seventeen, its unfair that all your friends can drive, but you can’t.

In retrospect, these things don’t really matter.  What really matters, is family.  So, the most unfair thing in life is losing someone close to you.  I know what its like to lose someone and so do many other people, such as Matthew Logelin.  Matt is the author of the memoir titled, “Two Kisses for Maddy”.  If you get a chance I would highly recommend reading it.

It is about the emotional rollercoaster of a man whose child was born pre-mature and less than 24 hours later, his wife passes without ever having held her child.  It is a truly inspirational story of how a single dad raised his daughter while trying to cope with a tragic loss.

Much of his book really hit home for me in the sense that my mother was taken from us while my sister was so young.  Rayah was only four when our mother passed.  She didn’t get a chance to really know her and I feel as though the only memories she will have are the ones we tell her.

It’s so unfair that I got to spend 19 years with her and I was able to grow up with a mother in my life.  My sister doesn’t have that constant mother figure in her life.  She is having to grow without our mother’s love and support.

Rayah understands that our mother is in heaven now and she has been coping in a way that I will never know or experience.  I couldn’t imagine being in Elementary school and having to explain to my classmates that my mom is gone or what it feels like not being a part of the Mother’s Day projects.

When she was younger, I don’t think the concept of death was really there yet.  She didn’t know and still doesn’t completely know the social etiquette when discussing death.  That was usually clear when her and I were out in public alone together.  There was one instance when Rayah and I were at a mall…she was about five.

A sales rep promoting a hair straightener asked if he could use it on me.  With time to kill I said ok.  In the process of doing my hair the sales rep asked Rayah, “Doesn’t your mommy’s hair look so pretty?”

Rayah replied, “My mommy’s dead.  This is my sissy.”  She said it so matter of fact that it hurt my heart hearing it…and embarrassed the sales rep who didn’t speak another word until we left.

The older she gets, the more questions she asks.  She has asked me about my mother’s “skeleton”being buried.  I had to explain to an 8-year-old about why there were no bones in our mother’s grave because we instead cremated her.  Looking at her face while I tried to explain it to her almost made me burst into tears.

Questions like this are really tough for me, but I know that she needs an answer.  She wants to understand and know who her mother is and I want to give her that, no matter how hard it is for me.

Yes, I think about all the things in my life where mom won’t be here, but Rayah hasn’t had our mom for anything passed the age of four.

My mom should have been taking her to her first day of Kindergarten.  Signing her up for a sport and watching her team win games.  Helping her with her first big project in school.  All of these things in Rayah’s life should have had my mother in it.

I know what joy it brings to a child’s life to have her mother and if I could, I would trade all the days I had with her, just so Rayah could have them.

One of the few pictures I have of my sister and mother

One of the few pictures I have of my sister and mother

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